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Things to Consider Before Moving In Together

7 Aug

Do you remember?

A few months back I wrote to you all asking for relationship advice. Should I move, should I not move? Remember? 

I have decided to move to the beautiful state of West Virginia!



My boyfriend has a commitment in West Virginia for another two years which could turn into more. My temporary full-time job in N.J. is coming to an end. SO, I have begun looking for full-time employment out in the boondocks. After months of deliberating the life-changing decision, I said to myself…

“If I was ever going to uproot my entire life and do something crazy, now would be the time.”

The decision to move in together was no walk in the park. Vince (that’s my man) and I had dozens of talks about the ins and outs, the pros and cons to cohabiting.

Things we considered before moving in together:

•Bills – Thousands of couples end their relationships because of money. We don’t want to let money control our happiness. We had those difficult talks now in order to avoid confusion, anger, resentment, frustration later!

•Spare time – We are aware that our current relationship involves appointments so we set aside time to do things. Living together will be a whole new ball game. The things we used to do alone like watch ESPN or fool around on Pinterest are now public to the other. We understand the need for space and also the need to compromise to share that time.

•Intimacy – Spending four to five days apart the way we do now means that when we’re finally together, things are hot and fiesty. We’re excited, fired up, and ready to go. Living together, however, means familiarity every single night. We may lose that excitement you get from something you can’t have.

•TMI – Living together means seeing things you never wanted to even think about your partner doing. Yes ladies, you too! We admitted to the gross things we do in the privacy of our own homes. Talking about seemingly embarrassing habits made them sort of a joke and will deter future disgust.

For more information on what to do before making the move, think about these 7 things!

These talks were all good and well but the move isn’t final, yet. In order to make the move, I need to secure employment and this has been the toughest thing to do. As a recent college grad with only 3 months of full-time experience, companies aren’t exactly begging to hire me. But with a great resume (thanks college!) and a well-written cover letter, I’ve put my information out there to numerous companies. Keep your fingers crossed for me! More to come on this as the job search continues.

What are your thoughts on cohabiting Is there anything I’m not already considering? Do you have a job opening in West Virginia? 😉 I’d love to hear from you ♥



post-graduation return

6 Aug

Greetings! My apologies for the lack of content from your Average Honey. Post-graduation life has been hectic and mundane all at the same time. How even…?

Let me explain.

Never in one million years did I think that I’d miss college as much as I do just three months after graduation. The stress, the crazy hours, the lazy classmates, the occasional careless professor…I’d take it all back in a heartbeat over my Monday-Friday, 9-5.

Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE my job. I am so thankful for the opportunity and the doors it has opened and so grateful to have a well-paid, full-time job right out of college. But it was a harsh slap in the face from reality.

Now that the post-graduation depression has passed, I’m now accepting the lifestyle of a typical 22-year-old recent grad. I’m getting quite comfortable, too! I recently purchased a brand new car solely in my name, acquired car insurance, and have been looking at apartments (affordable ones, of course. AKA cheap). I built a monthly budget based on my salary and even planned for those dreadful student loans quickly approaching like dark horses. november, NOVember, NOVEMBER!

Since life has become so routine, I find myself thinking, constantly thinking. My brain runs miles a minute like flash cards in fast-motion. I think about my future, my family, money, pets, shopping, my career goals, everything! It is hard to keep up.

Know what that means?

I’m back!



15 Apr

True women’s logic right there. Women are an interesting sex, don’t you think? We think we know what we want, but we have no idea. And therefore, it is someone else’s fault.

I’m not backing up my own sex, here. I am fully aware that this is ridiculous and I’m not going to apologize for being honest. At least I can defend myself for being honest.

The “rules” and “etiquette” that exist (in many young girls’ minds) between a man and a woman who may be interested in one another is a dark abyss of wrong moves and awkward silences. So instead of communicating, many girls get upset and assume the worst. “He doesn’t like me!” or “He never says the right thing” are great examples of responses.

I found this meme on knowyourmeme. This site lists the origin of this strand of memes called Women’s Logic and says “Women Logic (also known as “Female Logic”) is a term primarily used by men to describe a range of behaviors and thought processes that would be seen as distinctly feminine.” …which is basically just saying “women are freaking crazy, let’s make fun of them.” I guess I don’t hate it. I can laugh at myself.

In Taylor Swift’s song “22” she sings “We’re happy free confused and lonely at the same time
It’s miserable and magical oh yeah.” Couldn’t have said it better myself.


11 Mar

I need your advice.

Let me start off by saying that I feel like such a 22-year-old chick right now talking about this subject. I used to laugh at girls who had this question but now that I’m in the situation, I’m really struggling with it.

Here’s the sitch:

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year now and I’m not exactly sure why or how but we’ve become extremely serious with each other in that short amount of time. Maybe it is because we were long distance for five months. Maybe it is because he’s mature for his age. I have no idea. But this is real.

I’ve been in three other fairly-serious relationships and never before have I felt the way I do about this guy. We talk about everything with each other and rarely fight.

So… what’s the problem? He goes to school in West Virginia. As you know, I’m in New Jersey. He’ll be back in school for another two years starting in August. I’m graduating college in May.

We’ve thrown around the idea of me finding a job out there and living with him for his last two years at school. Along with that, he’s living with one of his guy friends so I’d be with the two of them for at least a year.

Pros                                                           Cons

I’d be with him                                       Uprooting my whole life

Live on my own                                      Sharing a small bedroom

Could save money living cheap             Will probably have to commute to work

Get to know his friends                        Cold as hell in WV

Obviously there are tons of pros and cons, but I want to know YOUR thoughts!



26 Feb

Let’s bring it back to elementary and middle school for a little bit. You know, when we were all supposed to have learned (and grasped) grammar rules. Obviously, that didn’t happen for many of us. I may only be 22 but I care about basic grammar rules. I’ve always had a knack for english, grammar, and spelling. Sure I make my fair share of mistakes but as a college student trying to sell myself to potential employers, I am very careful to take the few extra seconds to be sure that an email, a Facebook post, a tweet, or even a text is grammatically correct.

It reflects poorly on someone who doesn’t take  those extra seconds or who doesn’t care enough to publish or share a product that is accurate. You may be thinking, “who cares?” The answer is, many people care, trust me. Your friends will notice. Your teachers will notice. Your parents will notice.

Using proper grammar in written text is such a small sacrifice to make for huge results. People view you as someone who is articulate, someone who is intelligent, someone who cares about his/her presentations. Someone who cannot put together a sentence properly seems ignorant and careless while the meaning of the sentence can be skewed or even misunderstood.

Then you’re just another scumbag Steve.

I’m no expert. I certainly still have learning to do in this area but I care about the way I present my material and I feel that I’ve gained respect from my parents, friends, and coworkers.

A more detailed article on Yahoo! Voices explains this whole idea here. The author rants a little more than I do here but there are some great points in the article.

Some of the simpler yet more common grammatical errors that bug me the most:

  • there, they’re, their
  • to, too, two
  • your, you’re
  • a while, awhile
  • could/would/should have

For more common grammatical errors that make you look silly, check out this fun graphic.


12 Feb

8:57 a.m. alarm goes off. Since my day conveniently begins at 10 every morning, I make an attempt to wake up at 8:30 and actually put myself together.

We all know that never happens, right? I mean let’s be serious. Who ACTUALLY cares whether I look put together. You got it… no one. My supervisors at work only need us to “dress comfortably” whatever that means. I suppose pajamas would be comfortable but obviously that can’t happen. Regardless, my usual outfit this time of year consists of jeans, a sweater/hoodie, and some sperry’s.

Since I’m super involved on campus, I always have somewhere to go, a meeting to attend, a call to make, or an email to respond to. My life is always on the go. I’m always thinking ahead. But it’s that kind of pressure and adrenaline that I absolutely love. It feeds me and keeps me going. Well that and caffeine.



Luckily, this semester I’m only taking 3 classes, all of which only meet once a week. And since I’m far along in my college career, I had the luxury of taking classes I WANTED to take, not requirements. The other 6 credits are my internship which is paid, pretty well I might add.

Spare time? What is spare time? Kidding. I do have some spare time and unlike most 22-year-old females, I watch a lot of GSN or Game Show Network. Family Feud and The Newlywed Game are my shows. Don’t judge. But I also go to bars, shop (obviously at Forever 21 even though that isn’t true), and cook in my free time.

…Since I’m basically an old, saggy fart, I’m usually asleep on weekdays by 12:30 a.m.


This is much more difficult than I thought it would be. How does one explain who they are in just one blog post?

I suppose it will come over time. Feel free to ask questions of all kinds! I’m pretty much an open book.

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