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Got the job! Now what?

7 Oct

Happy Monday!

Not only did I have a wonderful weekend in the Pocono Mountains with friends and family, my struggle is over!

Job Announcement

Once I come down from my euphoric high of excitement and gratitude, I’ll start working out my next moves. Here’s a little bit about what this entails:

♦Set a start date at my new job – how short is too short and how long is too long
♦Tell my current boss that I’ll be leaving – awkward but she’ll understand
♦Coordinate moving out of the place I call home – this is the most difficult of all tasks
♦Spend some QT with friends and family before I move 6 hours away – also difficult since everyone lives in different states
♦Whatever else YOU think I should be doing! HELP – I’ve never done this

Current emotion: STRESS! Getting all these things done as well as typical errands is going to be tough.

As I transition through this huge stage in my life, I’ll do my best to blog about the pros and cons, the ups and downs, the unexpected and everything else involved with this big career move, lifestyle change, and its affect on my relationship. In the meantime…

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An Informal Offer: The Struggle

13 Sep

As if job searching in today’s tech-crazed world and in this job market weren’t already confusing as hell, I’ve come across yet another difficulty! Or should I say awkward situation?

Recall a few posts ago when I revealed my potential move to Morgantown, WV. The only thing I needed was a job…and a dresser! Wonderful news: the job has finally come my way! After traveling 6 hours to WV from NJ to interview for the position, I got a call four days later. Yay!

So what’s the issue? The offer remains informal. The HR rep said, “We would like to offer you the position, pending a background check. Once that is complete, we will schedule your start date.” Needless to say, I am thrilled. This job is perfect for me and it would really jumpstart my career. I’m so ready! But as I anxiously wait for the information to process, I’ve found myself obsessing over anything and everything about the hiring process.

♦What if I fail the background check?
♦3-5 business days – but it’s been 7! What’s going on?
♦I have more questions. Should I contact HR? Or my future boss?
♦My current job doesn’t require 2-weeks notice. When should I tell my current boss?

The list goes on. I can’t stop thinking about what this all means for my job and my life. However, I can’t really make any decisions until the offer is formal and final. This is what we call

The Struggle

I did some research and found some great insight on what to do and how to feel in this situation. Isn’t the internet a beautiful place? Here’s what I found:

Responding over the phone

Don’t make life changes YET

Don’t jump the gun, they’ll understand

In the meantime, I’ve been secretly designing a moving announcement to keep myself busy. Hoping for some good news SOON!

Anyone else have stories about informal/contingent job offers? OR anyone have suggestions while I wait? I’d love to hear from you♥

Design, Design, Design and Compromise

8 Aug

With the upcoming move, or so I hope, I spend a lot of free time thinking about how I would like to decorate our apartment together! Typical 22-year-old girl, right? I thought I’d share some of my inspiration with you and get your feedback! Themes aren’t really my forte so I stick with color schemes. You see, I’ve only ever decorated a bedroom and that was as a teenager so you can imagine the neon-infested, pattern-clashing designs my mother had to endure. Obviously this is all a little premature but I just can’t help myself!

 Bedroom

Yellow/Gray/Black/Blue – Love the cozy and simple look with a pop of color. Also, it isn’t too girly for a couple’s bedroom. (You’re welcome, Vince) The rugby stripes are bold and easy to match while. The blue adds a hint of youth and freshness.  

Flip Flops & Pearls Design

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Bathroom

The story with the bathroom design is ridiculous. Vince decided to buy this weird blue bathroom rug. It isn’t navy, it isn’t royal, it isn’t turquoise or aqua. So yes, it is a weird blue. He is desperate to keep this rug, even though his only connection to it is the $14 he spent on it. But in an effort to compromise, I’ll see what I can do. What are your thoughts on these? The chevron print is another bold print I like while the gray and white creates endless possibilities for color schemes…and that wretched rug.

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Kitchen/Living Room/Laundry Room/Balcony to come!

Please be honest in your feedback! What are your thoughts on colors? Prices? Compromise? I’d love to hear from you all ♥

Cheers!

Things to Consider Before Moving In Together

7 Aug

Do you remember?

A few months back I wrote to you all asking for relationship advice. Should I move, should I not move? Remember? 

I have decided to move to the beautiful state of West Virginia!

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My boyfriend has a commitment in West Virginia for another two years which could turn into more. My temporary full-time job in N.J. is coming to an end. SO, I have begun looking for full-time employment out in the boondocks. After months of deliberating the life-changing decision, I said to myself…

“If I was ever going to uproot my entire life and do something crazy, now would be the time.”

The decision to move in together was no walk in the park. Vince (that’s my man) and I had dozens of talks about the ins and outs, the pros and cons to cohabiting.

Things we considered before moving in together:

•Bills – Thousands of couples end their relationships because of money. We don’t want to let money control our happiness. We had those difficult talks now in order to avoid confusion, anger, resentment, frustration later!

•Spare time – We are aware that our current relationship involves appointments so we set aside time to do things. Living together will be a whole new ball game. The things we used to do alone like watch ESPN or fool around on Pinterest are now public to the other. We understand the need for space and also the need to compromise to share that time.

•Intimacy – Spending four to five days apart the way we do now means that when we’re finally together, things are hot and fiesty. We’re excited, fired up, and ready to go. Living together, however, means familiarity every single night. We may lose that excitement you get from something you can’t have.

•TMI – Living together means seeing things you never wanted to even think about your partner doing. Yes ladies, you too! We admitted to the gross things we do in the privacy of our own homes. Talking about seemingly embarrassing habits made them sort of a joke and will deter future disgust.

For more information on what to do before making the move, think about these 7 things!

These talks were all good and well but the move isn’t final, yet. In order to make the move, I need to secure employment and this has been the toughest thing to do. As a recent college grad with only 3 months of full-time experience, companies aren’t exactly begging to hire me. But with a great resume (thanks college!) and a well-written cover letter, I’ve put my information out there to numerous companies. Keep your fingers crossed for me! More to come on this as the job search continues.

What are your thoughts on cohabiting Is there anything I’m not already considering? Do you have a job opening in West Virginia? 😉 I’d love to hear from you ♥

Cheers!

post-graduation return

6 Aug

Greetings! My apologies for the lack of content from your Average Honey. Post-graduation life has been hectic and mundane all at the same time. How even…?

Let me explain.

Never in one million years did I think that I’d miss college as much as I do just three months after graduation. The stress, the crazy hours, the lazy classmates, the occasional careless professor…I’d take it all back in a heartbeat over my Monday-Friday, 9-5.

Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE my job. I am so thankful for the opportunity and the doors it has opened and so grateful to have a well-paid, full-time job right out of college. But it was a harsh slap in the face from reality.

Now that the post-graduation depression has passed, I’m now accepting the lifestyle of a typical 22-year-old recent grad. I’m getting quite comfortable, too! I recently purchased a brand new car solely in my name, acquired car insurance, and have been looking at apartments (affordable ones, of course. AKA cheap). I built a monthly budget based on my salary and even planned for those dreadful student loans quickly approaching like dark horses. november, NOVember, NOVEMBER!

Since life has become so routine, I find myself thinking, constantly thinking. My brain runs miles a minute like flash cards in fast-motion. I think about my future, my family, money, pets, shopping, my career goals, everything! It is hard to keep up.

Know what that means?

I’m back!

Cheers!

herethereandeverywhere

11 Mar

I need your advice.

Let me start off by saying that I feel like such a 22-year-old chick right now talking about this subject. I used to laugh at girls who had this question but now that I’m in the situation, I’m really struggling with it.

Here’s the sitch:

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year now and I’m not exactly sure why or how but we’ve become extremely serious with each other in that short amount of time. Maybe it is because we were long distance for five months. Maybe it is because he’s mature for his age. I have no idea. But this is real.

I’ve been in three other fairly-serious relationships and never before have I felt the way I do about this guy. We talk about everything with each other and rarely fight.

So… what’s the problem? He goes to school in West Virginia. As you know, I’m in New Jersey. He’ll be back in school for another two years starting in August. I’m graduating college in May.

We’ve thrown around the idea of me finding a job out there and living with him for his last two years at school. Along with that, he’s living with one of his guy friends so I’d be with the two of them for at least a year.

Pros                                                           Cons

I’d be with him                                       Uprooting my whole life

Live on my own                                      Sharing a small bedroom

Could save money living cheap             Will probably have to commute to work

Get to know his friends                        Cold as hell in WV

Obviously there are tons of pros and cons, but I want to know YOUR thoughts!

HELP!

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