herethereandeverywhere

11 Mar

I need your advice.

Let me start off by saying that I feel like such a 22-year-old chick right now talking about this subject. I used to laugh at girls who had this question but now that I’m in the situation, I’m really struggling with it.

Here’s the sitch:

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year now and I’m not exactly sure why or how but we’ve become extremely serious with each other in that short amount of time. Maybe it is because we were long distance for five months. Maybe it is because he’s mature for his age. I have no idea. But this is real.

I’ve been in three other fairly-serious relationships and never before have I felt the way I do about this guy. We talk about everything with each other and rarely fight.

So… what’s the problem? He goes to school in West Virginia. As you know, I’m in New Jersey. He’ll be back in school for another two years starting in August. I’m graduating college in May.

We’ve thrown around the idea of me finding a job out there and living with him for his last two years at school. Along with that, he’s living with one of his guy friends so I’d be with the two of them for at least a year.

Pros                                                           Cons

I’d be with him                                       Uprooting my whole life

Live on my own                                      Sharing a small bedroom

Could save money living cheap             Will probably have to commute to work

Get to know his friends                        Cold as hell in WV

Obviously there are tons of pros and cons, but I want to know YOUR thoughts!

HELP!

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7 Responses to “herethereandeverywhere”

  1. brosheth March 13, 2013 at 8:42 pm #

    Wow, that is a tough call. I really can’t offer any real advice on the matter. But I do wish you all the best.

  2. Kristie Matson March 13, 2013 at 10:18 pm #

    That is such a difficult situation to be in! I’ve never experienced a long distance relationship so I don’t have any direct advice on the matter, but I think you should go wherever you are happiest after college. If you find a great job you love that is not in West Virginia, I say take it. Your boyfriend obviously loves you enough so he should be able to respect your wishes. Best of luck with your decision!!

  3. Kristie Matson March 13, 2013 at 10:19 pm #

    loves you so much*** not enough lol typo sorry!!

  4. jonoftw March 14, 2013 at 7:32 pm #

    Hey, If I can chime in a for a little here. I’m in a long distance relationship.
    My girlfriend currently goes to Boston University, but is from New Jersey. We started dating right before my freshman year so we’re going on 4 years. We’ve been making trips to see each other every few weeks; I go to Boston or she comes home for the weekend.
    It is hard but we had the choice of sticking together for the sake of our relationship, but it’s not fair to ask someone to uproot their lives. Make the decision for your benefit and your life. I would love to see her everyday but right now it just can’t happen. We love each other very much and we make it work. It’s not easy but we make it work and it’s made us stronger. Do what you feel is right for yourself and if it really is meant to be, it really will work out. It will not be easy but it will be worth it. Remember live life for you and those who matter will stick around

  5. thebadnomad March 15, 2013 at 8:15 pm #

    First of all I think that it’s really cool that you’re asking for help from your audience! That and the poll included are really nice touches to your blog! Secondly, that is a really tough call, but I think that it’s the kind of thing that if you love him enough, you guys will find a way to make it work. Good luck with everything!

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